Street harassment is probably my biggest issue with Ghana. I just want to walk around without men yelling at me. The constant onslaught is exhausting.
Luckily Hollaback Street Harassment recently made a great video to illustrate what a huge problem this is, even in North America.
Even luckier, a fantastic parody was made! This video is excellent.
Sometimes, you just have to laugh.
Moreover, it makes sense that so many men here have no idea how to relate to me. They probably get most of their information from TV. Can you imagine if you judged women from beer ads? No matter they think I’m going to have sex with them just because they say hello.
Compared to here, Canadians are way more sexually active. Ghana is relatively conservative, especially in Tamale with its high proportion of Muslim population. Most people probably have a friend of a friend who dated an expat and they had sex without any thoughts of marriage. So weird!
So I try to be more understanding. Look at how Canadians view Africa, after all. We generalize “Africa” as if it’s one big country. We listen to songs like the new Band Aid 30 version of “Do they know it’s Christmas,” which is full of lies, racism, and bad rhymes. We see Africans as lazy, dependent, and vulnerable.
Which is wrong.
Sometimes I feel like an alien from a galaxy far, far away – but I’m not. I’m not going to say something stupid like “we’re all human so we should be able to empathize” because I don’t think that we can. More and more during conversations, I realize “I have absolutely no idea where this guy is coming from.” I can’t dig down deep to his fears, desires, and motivations. Our cultures are too different to understand each other.
But I think that’s ok. I think it’s ok to accept our differences as long as I realize that it’s not a black/white thing or men/women thing.